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The Loneliness of leaving a Cult: the documentary, Sons of Perdition

Last night I enjoyed the documentary, Sons of Perdition, about people who leave the FLDS, a polygamist Mormon sect on the border of Utah and Colorado. Although the sect in which I grew up was not as cult-like, I found … Continue reading

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Just Like my Daddy: Loyalty and the Moral Defense–Part 2

Military recruiters and police academies all over the world know intuitively that the way to create loyalty is to traumatize the recruits. Humiliate them, spit on them, call them names, scream in their faces, scare them, traumatize them, and in … Continue reading

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Loyalty to Church and Family

In any hardline church, gang, corporation, military group or cult, there is an emphasis on loyalty. The command to be loyal seems to trump all other commands. For instance imitating the early church in the New Testament was held up … Continue reading

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Translating Fundamentalese: Empathic Listening

I’m reading NonViolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. He has a chapter on listening empathically instead of taking things personally. This is probably the most difficult part of dealing with my family: listening to their needs rather than their judgments and … Continue reading

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God’s Opinion and God’s Church

A recent reply to a discussion sparked by one of my posts goes this way: <blockquote>My opinion is not important and neither is anyone else’s. God’s opinion is all that matters. That is my entire view on all matters of … Continue reading

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Preachers’ Kids

When I heard of Rick Warren’s son’s tragic suicide I immediately thought of the issues of Preacher’s Kids (Elder’s and Deacon’s Kids can also be included). The symptoms that preacher’s kids carry into adulthood are: 1. Shame 2. Feeling like … Continue reading

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Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother

The only specific way that Jesus told adult children to honor their parents was to support them in their old age. When you go down the list of what we are tempted to believe when we think of honoring our … Continue reading

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