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Organic Church vs GMO Church: or maybe we should appoint someone to be in charge of starting spontaneous singing…

One of the many problems that evangelicalism faces in America today is the disillusionment of a majority of evangelicals. Yes, we, or our parents, believed our local religious radio station playing Dr. Dobson in the 1980s, telling us that if … Continue reading

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Preachers’ Kids

When I heard of Rick Warren’s son’s tragic suicide I immediately thought of the issues of Preacher’s Kids (Elder’s and Deacon’s Kids can also be included). The symptoms that preacher’s kids carry into adulthood are: 1. Shame 2. Feeling like … Continue reading

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Fundamentalists have shame-based families

John Bradshaw, a popular psychologist in the 1980s, came up with seven rules that  fundamentalist shame based families live by. He should know, he grew up in a fundamentalist Catholic home. 1. The first rule is to control everything. If … Continue reading

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Why Fundamentalists Can’t Prevent Divorce

Fundamentalists oppose most divorce. Nevertheless their statistics are high in the divorce arena.   (On the Wikipedia site for the Churches of Christ, they brag that their divorce rate is only 6.9%. But that only means that among their current membership … Continue reading

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The Angry God

Churches with harsh discipline describe God as angry, unpredictable, vengeful and secretive, demanding loyalty. In other words: as a typical alcoholic godfather of a nasty organized mob family. Where does the hardline Churches of Christ get this picture of God? … Continue reading

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PTSD

Many people raised in hardline churches suffer from symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome: 1. nightmares about church or family members, 2. avoidance of church or religious or family activities, 3. over reacting to stressful situations that remind them of … Continue reading

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Tagged Relationships Versus Built Relationships

One of my relatives was saying that the stress we put on ourselves around family and relatives is usually because we are viewing our relationships through their tag:  mother, father, brother, grandparent, child, or even: teacher, preacher, elder, member. This … Continue reading

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