Tag Archives: arguing

Hooked by my relatives: Honor and Shame

Somehow I am in a conversation or email exchange that I want out of, but I can’t leave, because my relative has gotten the last jab. I need to get the last jab in before I can leave the conversation. Continue reading

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When Family and Friends from the Old Group Drive you Crazy

…but what the person who has left the group comes away with is a feeling of loneliness, sadness, and loss. Sometimes there is the feeling of shame, guilt, confusion and defensiveness. When this happens there is a cure. Continue reading

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Translating Fundamentalese: Empathic Listening

I’m reading NonViolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. He has a chapter on listening empathically instead of taking things personally. This is probably the most difficult part of dealing with my family: listening to their needs rather than their judgments and … Continue reading

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The Law of Liberty

Frank replied to Biblical Authority for Acapella Music: “God clearly teaches that disciples must be students of Scripture (Ja 1:25, Jn 8:31-32).” I am amazed (yet not amazed) that Frank would use James 1:25 to prove that there is a … Continue reading

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A Cure for Fundamentalism

Fundamentalists believe that every word in the Bible was dictated by the Holy Spirit to the 40 writers of the Scriptures. Thus fundamentalists view the Bible, from Genesis to Revelation, as one whole book written by God, using 40 writers … Continue reading

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Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother

The only specific way that Jesus told adult children to honor their parents was to support them in their old age. When you go down the list of what we are tempted to believe when we think of honoring our … Continue reading

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The Inevitable Train Wreck

When I think of the train wreck that people go through when they leave the hardline Churches of Christ, or almost any sect for that matter, I think of all the analyzing the person does afterward. “I should have said … Continue reading

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