About

This Blog is a subset of the website: ex-Church of Christ.com, and is part of a support system for people who have been involved in the rigid and sectarian wings of the Restoration Movement/ Churches of Christ.

About 20% of Churches of Christ remain rigid and sectarian. The Churches of Christ are mostly a capella (singing only), practice believer’s baptism by immersion for the remission of sins into the body of Christ, weekly Lord’s Supper, and try to replicate the organization and worship of the first century churches recorded in the New Testament.

People who leave the more rigid Churches of Christ are sometimes withdrawn from or shunned, even by family members. They are often told they are lost and headed for hell. This is understandably stressful for those who go through this. This is why we need a blog, a website and a bulletin board.

You are welcome to post comments. For a bulletin board that facilitates discussion between ex- and current members of the Churches of Christ go here.

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20 Responses to About

  1. La says:

    How do I find out more about your blog, read archives etc….and what lead you to believe the teachings of the church of Christ were wrong after 12 years of preaching? I am not sure what to believe anymore and am seeking the truth, thank you

    • This is the very beginning of the blog, but we have a website and two bulletin boards that you might be interested in.

      What led me to believe the teachings of the churches of Christ were wrong after 12 years of preaching? Well, during gosple meetings the preachers would always say, “If I am wrong on any point, I would be most grateful if you would point it out to me, because yours and my salvation depend on it,” or words to that effect. One of the first things that didn’t make sense to me was the idea that people would lose their salvation over instrumental music, but not over women’s headcovering. So if someone used a piano in church, they were lost and going to hell, but if they taught error about whether a woman had to wear a headcovering on her head during church (I Cor. 11) they were not lost. It was somehow okay to be in error on one point, but not on another. When I asked what the distinction was I was told, “Two hundred years of restoration history have shown which issues cause division and which issues do not.” Or “The church has agreed not to divide over the headcovering.”
      “But what if a person believes error about a piano?”
      “They dragged organs and pianos into churches and forced people to worship with the piano playing. They made it a divisive issue.”
      “So if they did not make it a divisive issue, and just believed error, but didn’t push it, they would be saved?”
      “No. Issues that were divisive in the past are matters of fellowship and withdrawal and false teaching.”

      If they had said that in the beginning I would have let go of the whole system a long time ago. It finally comes down to: What my parents believe and what my best friends believe is what I will defend.

      That was the first crack in the wall. The next one was how God really wanted instruments of music in worship in the Old Testament: even whole Psalms of David talking about the instruments that were to be used to worship God, and those same Psalms were used for short quotes in the New Testament. No writer in the New Testament ever said, “I’m quoting from this Psalm, but remember we don’t use instruments of music after the death of Christ; it is different now.” In fact the two passages used by anti-instrumental music teachers say “plucking the strings of the heart”. These are similar words to those used in the Psalms about the heart. Certainly no Jewish person in the first century reading Paul’s words would ever come to the conclusion that Paul was against using instruments of music.

      So when I brought up these inconsistencies I was expecting erudite Greek arguments. But all I ever got was: “The Greek Orthodox Church never used instruments of music.” Or “You’re going liberal.” Or “That’s not what I was taught.” Or the best one: “Well then, go join the Christian Church.” And “No sound teacher agrees with you.”

      Suddenly the facade of honest biblical inquiry, and “speaking where the Bible speaks and being silent where the Bible is silent”, fell by the wayside. I was left with a parade of brethren that looked suspiciously like the Ku Klux Klan.

      Finally I went to graduate school. I had to write papers that were logical. I could not. I was instructed repeatedly to rewrite my papers and take the logic step by step, citing primary sources at each step. Eventually I could do it, and I received my master’s degree. Then I would read articles written by preachers in the churches of Christ, or I would sit and listen to a sermon. Wow! Talk about ignorance. Talk about an inability to follow a straight line of logic. And this is what they take pride in: their logic will get them to heaven. (They would take one topic: baptism, and get ultra logical about it. Then they would decide they were ultra logical about all topics, without having to prove it.)

  2. La says:

    Thank you for your response. After I wrote that I found a forum I believe is what you are talking about. I have noticed some inconsistencies myself…which cracked the door open for me. Being raised in the church and having both sides of my family members…this is a bit overwhelming.
    Thank you for your site….glad I’m not alone (?) I will continue reading the forum
    La

  3. It depends on how hardline your families are as to what level of “alone” you are. Some families will have nothing to do with anyone who leaves the Church of Christ. Similar situations in some Jehovah’s Witness, Mormon, Mennonite and Amish families, not to mention Lebovitch, Taliban, Shiite, Hindu caste, Mafioso, etc.

    Church of Christ theology serves as a means to hold fragile families together.

  4. acs2009 says:

    Nice blog. I come from the mainline church with four generations of family worshiping with the CofC. Now I am of the reformed faith and charismatic. God is good!!!

  5. Sarah says:

    Hello,
    First of all, thank you for sharing your story and insights. Got any great resources that show how coC’s are harmful to the developing child?

  6. Gary Bray says:

    Amazing! I intended to start a blog EXACTLY like this when I ran across you. I very much want to know more about the folks behind this wonderful site and know more about how I can help. Wow, I thought I was the only one that ever went through all of this. PLEASE contact me.

    I thank God for your courage! Gary Bray

  7. Cocoloco says:

    The New Testament is the only truth and those who don’t like to abide by it will have to pay the consequences of following their ‘hearts’ rather than God’s Word. Bash the Church of Christ for whatever is worth to you but judgment day will separate the sheep from the goats. There is only one church Jesus built. For sure it’s not found in denominations, neither in ignorant people born in the church of Christ who don’t know their Bible and decide their ‘church’ is wrong just because they got curious and want to see if the grass is greener on the other side, or whose heart is evil and want to find a ‘better’ church to make them ‘feel’ good. Have it your way and be condemned, but teach the truth or be condemned too! May the Lord Jesus bless you with salvation before it’s too late.

    • Hi Cocoloco, You don’t specifically say what topic on the blog you disagree with, just that you believe we don’t want to follow the New Testament. If we said we are following the New Testament, what would you point out that we are doing wrong?

    • Gary Bray says:

      Hello from East Peoria IL,

      To start, I’m glad you care enough to write and warn others about what you see as “ignorant” “feel good” false teachers. Thirty years ago, I would have complimented you on your views. I was truly ignorant AND arrogant at the time, having spent many years in a ‘Church of Christ ‘ that demands both and keeps people in line with the threat of being condemned before it’s too late… I hope someday you read the gospels and think for yourself without ‘guidance’ from your church – just you and God.
      May we meet again in heaven, Gary

    • kajeaun says:

      Wow! This response demonstrates so much of why there is a need for a blog such as this…so quick to condemn with so many assumptions…

  8. brazili says:

    HELLO TO EVERYONE! I AM IN BRAZIL. EXCUSE THE ERRORS OF ENGLISH. HERE IN BRAZIL suffer / face the SAME ISSUES THAT YOU, ON THE CHURCHES OF CHRIST. BUT THE BIGGEST PROBLEM IS THAT I LIVE IN THE REGIONS THAT THERE IS SO HARD LINE CHURCH. SOUTHEAST OF BRAZIL. AFTER 13 YEARS BEING A MEMBER OF THE CHURCH OF CHRIST, I THINK I have managed ME NOW FREE OF THIS SYSTEM. HAS BEEN VERY HARD FOR ME, I CONSIDERED THE BRETHREN IN CHRIST UP BLOOD OF MY FAMILY, BUT NOW I ARRIVED AT MY LIMIT. AFTER SEVERAL YEARS OF QUESTIONING, WHAT WAS OUT Yesterday I spoke. TO cried a little, BUT IT WAS GOOD FOR THE SOUL CLEAN. WHILE I’M IN WITH A GROUP THAT ALSO LEFT THE CHURCH OF CHRIST A SEVEN YEARS AGO, BUT I JUST DID IT OUT AFTER SEVERAL YEARS OF THEM. THERE WE HAVE USED INSTRUMENTS IN WORSHIP AND HAVE SOME OTHER DIFFERENCES. NOW MANY MEMBERS OF THE CHURCHES OF CHRIST IN MY REGION SAYS THAT WE ARE IN SIN THAT WILL TO HELL, YOU WILL FALL IN CURSE. THEY DO NOT RELATE TO U.S. amicably. DIVISION I THINK THIS VERY SAD. I THINK TO THE MUSIC ACAPPELA BEAUTIFUL, BUT I would not reject / condemn TO HELL WITH ANYONE WHO ADORE INSTRUMENT. THANKS FOR THE SITE AND BLOG THAT YOU CREATED, HAS BEEN OF GREAT AID FOR BRAZILIAN TOO. CONITNUE GOD BLESSING YOU.

  9. brazili says:

    eu quis dizer: moro em uma região do brazil, que tem apenas igrejas de cristo linha dura.

  10. brazili says:

    I meant: I live in a region of Brazil, which has only churches of Christ hardliners.

  11. Hello,
    I am new to the blogging world so I hope I am leaving this message in the right place. I think many people on this site would be interested in my blog. It is guideguardanddirectus.wordpress.com. My husband and I both grew up church of Christ, went to Lipscomb University and then left the church all together or about 7 years. For various reasons that I explain in the blog, we went back to a hardline cofC. We attended there for about 7years and have now left the church of Christ for good. The first few entries are some bitterness that I needed to get out but really the blog will be much more about searching for a new church, really experiencing other denominations for the first time, and getting settled in a church that isn’t a church of Christ. Hope my story can help others out there. Thanks

  12. warrenwhis says:

    Wow, and I thought Lipscomb would leave you more main stream and functional. I “had to attend” Florida College and was totally brain washed into hardline coc thinking. I knew something wasn’t right in my heart (that’s the reason I didn’t preach for a living). But, it took a long time to kinda figure out the errors in that church. I think now that we know the young mind is simply not capable of mature, complex thinking and judgments and are subject to being rain washed. In the end, We are definitely left with a hole in our heart as we are abandonded by family and friends, condemned in their minds to hell and unworthy of their love. There is so much to life and working through its’ journey. Too bad they have to be that way.

  13. “Mainstream and Functional” are not two words that I would apply to Lipscomb. There are some messed up people there both in the system and out. This is a journey, but I am finally at a place where I can say I am glad I left.

  14. brazili says:

    I was sad. Those days are one year out of coc in Brazil. But I was invited by a friend of coc to join a fraternity. Then the wife of one of the leaders of coc told me he was very worried, because it involved my soul. Another day an evangelist also told me that I was being allied with the error, disobeying the Word of God, so was not salvação. Escrevi the words of the evangelist in a paper:-you do not have salvation!

    The only differences from the church that I am a member now from coc is that we use musical instruments, women can pray and give testimonies few days, and the leaders are called pastors.

    Judging people who are trying to love Jesus with all my heart is very serious.

    • brazili says:

      I think the only differences are that the Churches use musical instruments or take the Lord’s Supper Saturday night.
      I’d also be without salvation, would be judged.

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